Three Quick Tips for Tough Decision Making

This entry was posted Sunday, 19 July, 2009 at 11:07 am

DaffodilA lot of people are having change forced on them by the recession. Someone close to me was recently laid off because their company went bankrupt. I am so proud of them because instead of letting it overwhelm them, they are viewing this as an opportunity for change, and are refusing to wallow in self pity. It is always important to remember that you have the power to make these big life changes yourself and don’t have to wait for circumstance to dictate the path you take.

I have found that in times of tough decision making (whether it be about love, work, or life in general), there are three things you can do:



Look at where you are now. Ask yourself, is this where I want to be? Am I happy and content?


What do you want and need in your life? Are those needs being fulfilled?


Find out what your options are. Ask people for help, read books, look online and gather information so you can make an informed decision and hopefully make changes for the BETTER!

No matter what decision you make, remember not to beat yourself up about it. Very seldom is it the wrong decision, just a different path – and who knows where it might lead?

Treat yourself with kindness,


4 Comments to Three Quick Tips for Tough Decision Making

  1. Lisa says:

    July 21st, 2009 at 9:37 pm

    I love things with 3 R’s, 3 C’s, 4 P’s 🙂

    I especially like the bit about being kind to yourself. Somebody said to me a few months ago something that really resonated: “There is no failure, there’s only feedback.” I really like that.

  2. Geraldine Eliot says:

    July 22nd, 2009 at 9:54 pm

    Glad this resonated with you, Lisa. I know a lot of people also like “G & Ts” 🙂

    Isn’t interesting how tough we find it to give ourselves permission to feel bad or how we find it hard to be nice to ourselves, but bend over backwards for others? I often think, too, about the negative things I say to myself and then put them into perspective by imagining someone else saying them to me. I know I wouldn’t take that kind of bashing from someone else, so why do I take it from me? Certainly makes you think long and hard about it.

    Thanks for the comment and the lovely quote,


  3. Neeraja Sridharan says:

    August 4th, 2009 at 11:35 am

    Yes I perfectly agree. There is one another aspect we need to realize why we have not been able to achieve. Were the targets so high that we were unable to reach or was it just inability.

  4. Geraldine Eliot says:

    August 4th, 2009 at 1:32 pm

    Very true, Neeraja. It is always important to look at the whole situation from different angles. Often the solution may be that you need to take some kind of action to improve your skills, or you may need to recognise that it is just not something that you are capable of doing. The key here is not to blame yourself, but to seek a positive way to solve the problem.

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